When You Can’t Do It All

To do list

I’m sure some of you have noticed that I’ve been rather sporadic at posting here in the past month or two. I’ve missed more days than I have since I started blogging.

The first few times it happened, it really bothered me. I wanted to have a post here every weekday. I wanted to be consistent. I wanted to stay on the schedule I had created. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t get everything done.

Every year,  I do a big freelance project in the spring. It’s time-consuming and a bit tedious. It takes several months to get it done. And that was when I wasn’t homeschooling my younger daughter. This year, though, I threw in homescchooling and another job teaching at a homeschool enrichment program.  And I discovered that I can’t do it all.

As moms, we have a tendency to think we can do everything. We think we should do everything, and we feel guilty when we can’t get it all done. We feel like we’re letting someone down when we fail to do the 25 tasks on our daily to-do list.

In the past couple months, though, I came to the realization that I simply can’t do it all. I can’t be all things to all people, and I need to quit trying. I can only do what I can do.

So, here’s what I discovered. There are some days that the blog will go unwritten. There are some days that the laundry will go unfolded. There are some days when dinner will come from the drive-thru. There are some days when the bathrooms will go uncleaned.

Because I can’t do it all, and I was never intended to do so. God didn’t intend for us to spend all our waking moments chasing our tails. He intended for us to spend those moments chasing Him.

In the past few months, I’ve discovered that God wants us to seek Him and the things He has for us instead of the things on our to-do list. He’ll make enough time for everything if we turn that list over to Him and let Him order it.

And God doesn’t care if you order pizza for dinner so you can spend 20 minutes playing Uno. He doesn’t care if your house is messy today because you chose to help your child with his homework. God doesn’t care if the fish bowl really needs to be cleaned because you chose to spend an extra 15 minutes talking to your husband before he left for work.

God does care that we make His priorities our priorities, and God’s priorities are always people and relationships — not things. So, today, if you’re feeling like you can’t get it all done, if your to-do list seems longer than the day, give it to God. Ask Him to order it and provide enough time for everything. And remember, God never intended for you to do it all. He simply intended for you to do the things that He asks you to do.

 

2 comments

  1. Debi Nunley says:

    I’m here in South Africa, for just a few more weeks, and am totally agreeing with this post and am blessed that you shared your struggle!
    All of us women struggle with this,especially me, yet this past year God has totally proven to me that His priority list is much smaller than my To Do list and when I follow His list all gets done that is important!! God is soooo good that way!
    He doesn’t want us chasing our tails all day and not noticing or having time to enjoy whom He’s placed in front of us for this short season of life!
    I’m with you in this daily battle and choose to drop to my knees and listen to God’s wisdom to order my every morning… or else… I come undone!!
    Love you sister and hope to see you when we return!
    Debi Nunley

  2. Rosann says:

    Amen to this 100 times! I am presently in a physically limiting season, and I’ve had to ignore my to do list because God made it clear to me that it’s not the priority right now. My health and my relationships are what’s most important. It’s meant very little writing and very little social media time. And the world has continued to spin without me grasping tightly to it. Imagine that! Lol! There’s a season for everything!

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