Holding It All Together with Duct Tape and Twine

Courtesy Grant Cochrane

A friend of mine posted this on their Facebook page the other day: “I’m tired of using all the duct tape and twine trying to hold myself together.” I had a quick chuckle and moved on. But those words have stuck with me all weekend as I wonder how many of us moms feel exactly like that.

How many of us feel like we’re just hanging onto our sanity by the tips of our fingers?

How many of us look around our homes, see the toys strewn across the floor and the mountains of laundry, and wonder how other moms make it look so easy?

How many of us feel like we’re always yelling instead of teaching and grousing instead of learning to be content?

How many of us long for the day when this motherhood thing won’t be quite so hard — for the day when we have all the answers, the house is clean, the kids are obedient and dinnertime conversation consists of more than a negotiation of how many pieces of broccoli a child has to eat?

How many of us feel like like we’re just one temper tantrum away from it all falling apart — and there’s not enough duct tape in the world to hold it all together?

If you’ve ever felt like this or if you’re feeling this way today, know that you’re not alone. Motherhood is not easy. It’s not neat. It’s not always fun. Motherhood is exhausting and exhilarating. It’s confusing and rewarding. It’s messy and beautiful. But it’s not easy.

On those days when it seems like it’s all falling apart — the days when the kids are cranky, the laundry’s not done, the babysitter canceled 20 minutes before you had to leave for work, and nothing is going your way — it’s time to throw in the towel. It’s time to stop holding it all together with duct tape and twine. It’s time to get out of the way and let God pick up the pieces.

Because that’s when God does His best work. When we finally let the twine and duct tape unravel and let the pieces fall, God steps in. He shapes and reforms. He gives strength to the weary, peace to the anxious and healing to the broken. He makes something beautiful out of our mess.

Ecclesiastes 3:11 tells us “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” That includes the messy pieces of our lives. And the stuff He uses to hold it all together — His grace, His love, His joy and His peace — are far stronger and better than duct tape and twine.

Let Him pick up the pieces in your life today.

Linking up today with The Better Mom and Graceful.


  1. Shelly Miller says:

    Love the title. And it really does get a bit easier and then you stand there looking blank in your clean house, wondering where all the time went. Mothering is the most difficult thing I have done to date, yet it has taught more than anything else to date. Mostly how dependent I am on Him, how little control I really have. Nice post.

  2. Lori says:

    Thanks for the perspective from the other side. I know that mothering has taught me more than any schooling I’ve had or any job I’ve been hired for. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment.

  3. Laura says:

    Yes! His grace and love and joy and peace are SO much better in holding us together! My kids are definitely older than yours, and things do change — but they’re still messy and beautiful, no matter what the age or stage.

  4. Mary Beth says:

    I’m not that far into mothering, and it has already taught me so much. Thanks for the encouragement in this post. Thank you for dropping by and leaving a comment at New Life Steward, too!

    Mary Beth

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