A friend of mine posted this on their Facebook page the other day: “I’m tired of using all the duct tape and twine trying to hold myself together.” I had a quick chuckle and moved on. But those words have stuck with me all weekend as I wonder how many of us moms feel exactly like that.
How many of us feel like we’re just hanging onto our sanity by the tips of our fingers?
How many of us look around our homes, see the toys strewn across the floor and the mountains of laundry, and wonder how other moms make it look so easy?
How many of us feel like we’re always yelling instead of teaching and grousing instead of learning to be content?
How many of us long for the day when this motherhood thing won’t be quite so hard — for the day when we have all the answers, the house is clean, the kids are obedient and dinnertime conversation consists of more than a negotiation of how many pieces of broccoli a child has to eat?
How many of us feel like like we’re just one temper tantrum away from it all falling apart — and there’s not enough duct tape in the world to hold it all together?
If you’ve ever felt like this or if you’re feeling this way today, know that you’re not alone. Motherhood is not easy. It’s not neat. It’s not always fun. Motherhood is exhausting and exhilarating. It’s confusing and rewarding. It’s messy and beautiful. But it’s not easy.
On those days when it seems like it’s all falling apart — the days when the kids are cranky, the laundry’s not done, the babysitter canceled 20 minutes before you had to leave for work, and nothing is going your way — it’s time to throw in the towel. It’s time to stop holding it all together with duct tape and twine. It’s time to get out of the way and let God pick up the pieces.
Because that’s when God does His best work. When we finally let the twine and duct tape unravel and let the pieces fall, God steps in. He shapes and reforms. He gives strength to the weary, peace to the anxious and healing to the broken. He makes something beautiful out of our mess.
Ecclesiastes 3:11 tells us “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” That includes the messy pieces of our lives. And the stuff He uses to hold it all together — His grace, His love, His joy and His peace — are far stronger and better than duct tape and twine.
Let Him pick up the pieces in your life today.